Take Your Chance!!

Setting the tone!! ;)

I was watching “Life In A.. Metro” a movie about many individuals who are facing their own challenges with relationships and happiness bounding to it.

We have two characters in the movie, first is Irrfan Khan – a 38 year old guy frustrated for not getting married who fails to be in criteria of normal guys. Second is Konkana Sen Sharma, she is a 28 year girl-next-door who has her challenges being deprived of hot looks and layers of makeup. Thus misses many guys! Finds a hot guy, dates him to find that he is a gay. Ruining her life in best possible way!!

Irrfan and Konkana meet over a cup of coffee and Konkana rejects him. After few months they coincidentally join the same office and spend time together at a sea shore.

Irrfan ask Konkana as why she rejected him.

Irrfan – What’s the reason you rejected me?

Konkana – Because you were staring at the objectionable part of my body. I didn’t like it.

Irrfan – I am 38 and I haven’t touched any girl, as you are so beautiful with perfect body and you are saying.. and Irrfan continues clearing out the fog. But like Delhi fog it failed to disappear.

Konkana – The guy I like might never behave this way.

Irrfan – What’s your imagination of a perfect guy?

Konkana – Should be normal.. Caring.. Sensitive.. Reading books.. Sense of humour.. Loving.. Caring.. Loves travelling.. Knowledgeable.. Creative..

Irrfan – I have a friend; he bought a car 5 years back and is still rotting in the garage. He never used it. He said that he is only going to drive car when all signals will be green in the city.

Konkana – That’s dumb guy, unless and until you don’t take out the car how are you going to find out if signal is green or not.

Irrfan -  Exactly!! Take your car out. Take your chance.

Most of us don’t take that chance “your chance” of confessing the feelings and letting the person know about it.

Don't ever wait for a perfect person, neither the perfect match!! No one is perfect in the world. Perfect person and perfect match both are relative from person to person. Imperfection brings the lame things that we do, moment we hog our food, moment we slide on the aisle or the moment we spill water makes us laugh. But what if we have the most ideal person, life would be so boring to live. I don't want a perfect life!!

We need to take life more lightly!!

I am almost 25 :D

There are obvious reasons we avoid confessing the next person know about emotions, probably because we are not ready for commitment, fear of missing out best friend, career, past relationships or sometimes just we can’t gather the courage.

But believe me it’s never that hard to express feelings. I have been rejected by few and I have rejected few. But that’s really okay!! And this doesn't mean you can't love again. You have this one life to find the right person, if one says No it’s certainly not the end of the world. Take your time to get stable but don’t let that one person from the past ruin the beautiful future. The future which holds the power of witnessing and working on all the dreams together.

For me on most occassions I have fell for a girl is compatibility - finding things in common!! If she is also into songs I hear, shows I watch, hobbies I pursue then mind and heart automatically starts dreaming of the unlimited things that can be done together.

In my case there is a major problem with me. I often like old music by singers like Gulzar, Kishore Kumar, Jagjit Singh. Loves some sensible bollywood movies like The Lunchbox, Life In a Metro, Stanley Ka Dabba,  Swades. Shows I prefer are FRIENDS, Sarabhai vs Sarabhai. Hollywood includes watching multiple times Harry Potter, The Interstellar (and I actually know about all astrophysics part mentioned in Interstellar), Inception, Jurassic Park and possibly all science fiction movies.

I hate Big Boss, music by Yo Yo Honey Singh and Mahesh Bhatt movies – which majority of the population like.

These things make me stand awkward and stupid in-front of normal world. In return I am uncomfortable with many people and I often speak intellectual stuff which many people don’t understand!! And worst of all I can’t flirt and I am hopeless. In short a mixture of Chandler and Ross - a perfect girl repellant :D (FRIENDS fan will understand it).

Easiest and best option that I see in such situation is to consider myself Tea and next person as Coffee, with one common element – Sugar!! :)

Whatever you want to do but never bombard
your feind's timeline with quotes and song lyrics :D :D :D

This sugar leads to communications; this communication leads to multiple meets and this meet to building trust – three essential things for every relationship, friendship to family bonds.

This common sugar leads to endless possibilities of exploring each others, which becomes the connection to each other’s soul. Next person might be having Game of Thrones as favourite series which gives me an opportunity to see it. But what if next person prefer saas-bahu daily soap? :D Fail, sugar is missing and salt can’t go with Tea now!!

And even if we had a bad past experience doesn’t mean we will confront same thing every day. Dumping and betraying is the part and parcel of our journey. If we kept cribbing with past then we have no present or future.

This reminds me of a quote from Kung Fu Panda by Master Oogway – Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is Mystery, Today is a Gift. That’s why it is called PRESENT!!

Not going ahead with the next person because of a horrible past is like you have been to Essel World, first ride was frightening so you skip all others. Or like avoiding SRK’s “DDLJ” (Oct 1995) after watching “Oh Darling! Ye Hain India!” (August 1995). Or losing out scuba diving opportunity in Great Barrier Reef because in childhood you gulped some water down your nostrils.

That huge is what we misses out when we keep ourselves confined to past and are reluctant to explore future.

To get over the fear of everything that you are afraid to do in life there is one scene from movie “We Bought A Zoo”. It states you just need those 20 seconds of insane courage.

In this scene Matt Damon asks guy what's up with Lily. Guy has not told Lily that he likes her so Matt explains - Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embrassing bravery and I promise to you something great will come of it!!

Screenshots from the comments below this video –

Some failed

Some nailed

I believe life is full of surprises. Stephen Hawking beautifully narrated life –

“We are on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand million galaxies. Are your problems really significant in light of this?

You walk this Earth for but a short time. Why not become devoted to having only a wonderful experience. Why not dedicate yourself to leaving a powerful legacy to the world? Sit down now and write out a list of all that you have in your life.”

I see many people finding it hard and confused to go ahead and take that leap of faith. Closing quote from Superman movies “Man of Steel!” - Sometimes, you have to take a leap of faith first. The trust part comes later.

Hope after reading this there will be many people who will be taking that leap of faith and be a superman of their lives. :)

Even if you failed there is no reason to be upset of - keep yourself busy to the core, take up new hobby (I am trying Harmonica and Scuba Diving now), build a skill, volunteer for NGO or best build a company. Just one life and so many things to try.

Nakhre utha iske nakhre utha

Haan dhoop bhi yehi hai

Chaanv bhi yehi hai

Joh bhi yeh kehti hai, tu maan ja

Kho jaana, paa jaana, na paana

Hai zindagi jaan le

Bik jaana, loot jaana, bas jaana

Hai zindagi jaan le

Joh kal gaya woh phir se aata nahin

Ho ho ho guzra hua joh waqt hai

Woh dastak lagata nahin

Kyun zindagi se ho shikva gila

Yeh hasti hai roti hai

Joh bhi hai jaisi hai

Joh bhi yeh deti hai woh hai tera

Kar salaam ... kar salaam!!

- Kar Salam, Life In A Metro ( Pritam, 2007)

All the best with those 20 seconds of courage, do mail me with what happen next!! ;)

Read the below article to know what happens when you get along with wrong partner.

http://www.hrtwarming.com/46-yeold-banker-finds-out-his-wifes-been-cheating-for-10-years-posts-this-on-facebook/

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अशी राहिली चिखलदारा सहल!!

30^th June, 2012

Ankush, Aniket A, Akshay, Vipul, Jitesh, Me, Ojas, Nakul, Aniket D[L to R]

As usual सूरुवात तशीच झाली!!

2 वाजताचा वेळ ठरलेला आणि नीघे पर्यन्त 4:30 zale.

Thanks to Ojas Kale. Though he was with genuine reasons and he put all his efforts in getting on time.

तरी हे सगल चालायचच!!

अरे intro राहीलाच

आम्ही मोजून 10 potte.

मी, Ojas, Nakul, Palash, Akshay, Jitesh, Ankush, Vipul and 2-2 Aniket.

निघताना वाटले tripचा पोपट न व्हावा…कारण मागच्या 15 दीवसात काहीच पाऊस नव्हता. पण कोणास ठाउक निघताच धो-धो पाऊस सूरू. आम्ही एकदम अत्यानंदी. Can compare to India winning a match against Pak(am a cricket fan, so I am in no way concerned with recent Euro Cup :P)!!

पहीला थांबा Semadoh(spelling सोबत compensate करुन घ्याल).

अस करत आमची Tata Sumo पूढे सरसावली. आणि प्रत्येक kilometer मागे आमचा रोमांच वाढत जात होता. Timepass साठी गाणे “ओरडणे”(YES!! We were shouting), रस्त्यात आडव-तिडव बोलण चालायचच!

Our voyage continued. Meanwhile we halted only at Paturda and a so-called “dhaba” for Bisleri and tea.

एक फार जूनी Chinese proverb आहे-

One can be deprived of food for weeks but not from tea for a single day!

तसच काही तरी म्ह्णाव.

अस करत पोहचलो Semadoh.

आता उरल ते पोटा-पाण्याच. भूक त सगळ्यांना सप्पाटून लागली होती.

जेवलो एका “संदीप” नावाचा घरगूती ढाब्यात.

Me आणि Jitesh आम्ही दोघेच veg वाले. केले order dal-fry. वाटल खमंग होइल. But that was a free dinner (God knows how dhaba owner levy his kindness over vegies). Sadly I regret next day for having it!!

Anyways मग Palash and Ankush कोअंबड्या शोधायला गेले आणि बाकीचे आप-आपल्या घरी, स्वतःच्या GFsला(Yes! I was indeed an exception in it) आणि coin-boxचा फ़ायदा घेत बाकी मित्रांना त्रास दिला. Then everyone of us insanely attacked on foods and later in night had free-fall on bed in rest-house.

No one was geared up to sleep.

Everyone was harebrained, attacked each other and that includes jumping from double-bed (am sure many of us were comparing self with Super Man, at least I was).

बाकी पोट्टे करत बसले गप्पा गोष्टी, पण मी जाम थकलो होतो. साल्या सगळ्यांनी दूपारची झोप घेतली होती(I am exception here as well).

Finally I slept at 0030 hours. But these folks were still breathing.

Aniket and Me :)

1^st July, 2012

Woke-up in dawn (being more precise mosquitoes woke me up).

I checked out the scenario…shocked to see that no-one was in room. Went over to wear shoe..they too were disappeared.

Then my eardrums were struck by 180 decibel sound. My mind suddenly clicked and I get to know that all were rolling over in jungle. They were getting what they came in search of. Complete control over their activities (in short no one was there to censure them).

Chit-chat continued. Wait was just of dawn (cause water was lacking in pipes. And why everyone was so desperate for water supply is another thing! :P).”

झाली एकदाची सकाळ. All went to free up themselves. If someone took even some miliseconds than expected then door banging sound was certain. :D :D

अस करत- करत with almost lightning speed and manual force we all accomplished our individual missions!!

Now the time was of having Rabdi. I was having stomach ache cause of last night’s veggie. So, I preferred not to eat those eatables. Everyone was having it with great pleasure. I was like a very poor kid sitting outside a toy shop, can only gets happiness from smile of other children’s. पण बाकी सगळ्यांचे पोट दूखणार होतेच, आणि दुखले सुध्धा. :D

Then we headed-off to Chikhaldara. It was some 24 km from Semadoh. But the road was zig-zag which was going to make this an hour long journey!

Yippee!! We reached our destination-Chikhaldara!

सगळ्यात चांगली गोष्ट माझ्या मित्रांना म्हणजे हादाडण. काही असो, त्या पासून कधी वंचित नाही राहणार. Sometimes I get a feeling like-what if aliens exhaust their food on their planet and they stole away earth’s food (including animals). How my friends are going to survive?

जाऊद्या ते काम SETI (Search for Extra-terrestrial Intelligence) कडे सोपवल आहे USA Govtनी, they will take care of it.

Then we captured Satpuda hotel. Party was from Akshay. Then what, for first time menu was being ordered on basis of name, irrespective of their prizes.

Nearby there was a garden-Maharaj baag. A small visit and back to hotel.

आता प्र्यंत सगळ्यांना वाटल trip एकदम सूव्यवस्थितपणे पार पडेल.

Something was yet to come on surface. Aniket mis-placed his wallet somewhere. For sure that was a big blow to him. But many of us took it lightly. Thinking it to be just another mischief by one of us.

But it wasn’t!

Then very soon Ankush and Aniket headed back for Semadoh. Thanks to his memory that he remembered he put it under his pillow.

Very soon they arrived from Semadoh and we had our lunch (I was exception here as well).

"Pawan chakki"

Now it was just 2 pm in clock.

Everyone was with just one question-NOW WHAT?

We have 4 hours to spare and nothing were left to do.

But then Ojas came with his दीढ-शहाणे mind. He suggested having some sight-seeing. Obviously it was not in our to-do list before coming here.

But it proves fertile.

I enjoyed one of the best weather in world, among the better hill-stations amidst the best of my friends!!

सगळे एकदम रोमांचित झाले होते.

धूक, थंडी, गाणे आणि चेंगळ! Then we barren even that place. Headed towards wind-mill. There were two of them, with name-Suzlon 1000MW “घरररर-घरररर” आवाज करत होते.

आम्ही खूप enjoy करत होतो. एवढी मोठी wind-mill आम्हाला फक्त एक photo साठी back-ground द्यायचे काम करत होते.

After reaching there I just remembered lines of the song “As It Is In Heaven” by Matt Maher-

Every Eye Proclaim

The Mercy of Your Name

On Earth As It Is Heaven

God Give Us New Morning

Mercy His Daily Bread

And my conscience shouted-पैसा वसूल झाला रे संक्या तुझा!!

Within an hour we were back in Amravati. Ready for same routine!

But I realized one thing. As long as you are accompanied by your mates then you can face any barrier, they understand us and if time demands they won’t hesitate to give a helping hand.

Why am saying this can only be known by those who were with me.

Ingasping!!!

माझ्या मूळे तूम्हाला त्रास झाला आणि तो तुम्ही समजून घेतला त्यासाठी खूप- खूप धन्यवाद मित्रांनो!! :) :)

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